Small Connections

The other day, I took a walk in the woods. I was looking for some solace while awaiting election results. Although I loved my time in nature and felt renewed for having gotten away from my computer, upon reflection, it was a small encounter with a stranger that I believe really lifted my spirits. About half-way through my loop, a young woman with a dog came from the opposite direction. The dog was ADORABLE so of course I asked what the breed was, how old, etc. Before I knew it, we were chatting – about what (other than the dog) I don’t remember. Although the interaction lasted only a few minutes, what I do remember is that I walked away with an extra little bounce in my step.

I miss those small interactions with people that I used to take for granted. And I know I am not alone. The number one thing that keeps coming up with my coaching clients is the struggle of lack of connection and loneliness. 

Even those of us who live with spouses and kids are simply not as social as we had been pre-covid. The little interactions at the deli counter, standing in line to get coffee, and chatting on the side lines at a soccer game are not happening nearly as frequently as they used to. And the research suggests that these small interactions of connection are tied to an overall increase in mental health. With winter just around the corner, we are likely to be even more isolated, which can pose a threat to both our physical health and overall mental health – and loneliness is a big part of that equation.

So, what to do?

I think it comes down to being more intentional about creating connections both big and small. Planning a walk with a friend, having drinks in the backyard, or having a zoom call with friends – are all good places to start. And equally as important (I believe) is to engage people while out and about. Make a point to chat with people every time you leave your house. We used to have so many of these small interactions that we didn’t need to think about them much. Seeking out and being intentional about creating these small touches can be a game changer.